Usually disguised as harmless talk, it’s one of the most destructive forms of communication to relationships. It involves manipulating the perception of another person that is not there to defend themselves. Instead of solving anything, this passive-aggressive behavior creates severe and lasting problems.
One of the first stories in the Bible describes Cain killing his brother Abel (Genesis 4:8). Since the beginning of time, people have understood that intentionally taking, or being an accomplice to taking, an innocent life is wrong however the Fifth Commandment goes well beyond this surface level interpretation.
The common response to a problem is to blame others or the environment. While other people and the environment likely contributed to the problem, blaming them solely is highly unlikely to lead to a solution. Instead, if you can stop digging you may be able to solve the problem with courageous humility.